6 scientifically-supported strategies to succeed with nonattachment
If we become too focused on a particular goal, result, or measure of success, it can prevent us from having a broader view.
Explore these six scientifically-supported strategies to achieve greater clarity and self-kindness:
Practice “Sometimes” Thinking
When you start to think in absolutes like “I am” or “I cannot,” you are likely stuck in an ego-driven mindset. To help yourself out of this, add the word “sometimes” to these statements. For example, instead of thinking “I am a runner,” try saying “I am a runner, sometimes.”
This allows for more flexibility and prevents you from searching for evidence to support your rigid beliefs (confirmation bias) or creating a self-fulfilling prophecy by not taking risks or exploring other options.
See Yourself as Interdependent
Viewing ourselves as interdependent can help us understand that our success is intertwined with the success of those around us.
Working together rather than competing against one another can lead to positive outcomes and greater achievements, even in competitive settings like academia.
Be Open to Feedback
If you are too set in your ways and unwilling to consider new perspectives, you will struggle to develop and evolve.
Receiving feedback is key to progressing, yet many people become more entrenched in their work or age and fail to take advantage of it.
Practicing non-attachment involves altering your behavior when it is causing harm, not working, or going against your values and goals.
Let Go of Normal
Rather than trying to measure up to an arbitrary standard of “normal”, focus on your own personal progress.
Evaluate yourself against your own past performance and successes, rather than comparing yourself to others.
Narrow Down Your Time Frame
For one hour, concentrate on the task or relationship at hand without worrying about the end result or how much is left to do.
This will help you to break away from attachment and be present in the moment.
Hold Multiple Perspectives
Consider the perspectives of those around you, such as your colleagues, children, and even strangers. Think about how someone with whom you disagree or your pet might view the situation.
By broadening your outlook in this way, you can move beyond the narrow confines of your ego and recognize that there are multiple points of view, and that you can accept multiple views simultaneously.